Frequently Asked Questions
EFT is a simple, powerful process that can profoundly influence your thought field patterns, gene activity, health and behaviour. Some parents will benefit from a more detailed understanding of the power of EFT and how to apply it to themselves. This section is for you!
You will find more FAQ's and answers on www.eftworking.co.uk
What is an EFT Practitioner?
An EFT practitioner is a qualified practitioner in the art of Emotional Freedom Techniques. They employ EFT as the primary tool for helping the client get from where they are to where they want to be.
EFT allows the client to neutralize past issues that are standing in the way of their life's journey.
In doing so, the need for the client to retread the old roads of the past is eliminated and the focus shifts to mapping their future path.
Who does the tapping - me or my child?
EFT is such a fantastic tool for children and with skillful adjustment I successfully teach and use EFT with children every day. During a typical session, I will teach a child to use various tapping techniques on themselves for whatever they wish to deal with. It is so easy a child even a young child can understand and do it.
Occasionally, in a session where a child is really tunes into an issue and possibly showing signs of discomfort I may ask the parent's permission 'to tap on the child for that moment'.
I always recommend to parents, carers and teachers that they join in with the child in this process. After all often the parent is often present at a session and likely to be involved.
Sometimes it is also appropriate for parents to attend separate sessions to deal with their stuff.
Do I need to use the services of an EFT Practitioner ?
If you have everything that your heart desires, you are doing exactly what you want to do and you are happy and contented being you, then, the answer is no. You do not need me. However, if you feel a sense of lack in what you have, what you do or what you want to be, then yes, you could may choose EFT as painless tool for helping you get to where you would like to be.
What to expect at an individual session?
Each child is unique therefore each course of treatment is individualised. Some issues are resolved in a single session, others have multiple aspects and require more time. Most appointments are kept to an hour or less to adapt to a child's natural attention span.
In addition to working with your child, I encourage parents to experience a separate session to learn the technique as well. Not only is doing EFT a wonderful way to connect with your child, but is effective in dealing with your own upsets about your child's experience and anxieties. This can allow us to live in a much calmer and more responsive way, responding to the children rather than to our own concerns.
I am also in the process of releasing a huge range of individual powerpoint presentations that a child can choose (eg I get angry) and tap at home once they have learnt the basics of EFT.
Occasionally I will combine EFT with other suggestions, restrictions and lifestyle tips for increased effectiveness.
Personally, on a daily basis I use EFT and associated techniques with children that I teach and tutor (ages 6 to 20 years old) and children that visit my practice with their parents who have individual issues that need addressing. I also run family session and workshops for families to teach and coach the use of EFT as a part of their daily routine. Examples: A level anxiety, bullying and confidence issues, I can’t do Maths!, fear and feelings of loneliness. I have also been using it with the children that I teach, helping them to overcome their blocks and fears around spelling and reading issues. In fact any 'bad' past experience that is still impacting on their ability to be the joyful learners they were born to be!
The beauty of it for children is that it is often fun and if there are moments of discomfort they are kept to a minimum. EFT can be learned very quickly for yourself and if you can read the background to EFT for more details, and read my website www.eftworking.co.uk and subscribe to my free monthly newsletters about the progress and success attained by everyone.
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How are we are using EFT with children of all ages. Tell me here about your practice and what you would like to achieve.
How many sessions do I need?
The long answer is that it would depend on the intensity of the issue as well as the number of issues you bring to the table. I cannot give you an exact number of sessions, however, keep in mind that Rome was not built in a day. It happens, on occasion, that some relatively minor issues get resolved in one session. It is more likely that you will experience some major insights in your first session that lead to those wonderful "Ah-ha" moments in subsequent sessions.
It is good to keep in mind that I provide the support and guidance and you provide the commitment and willingness to "do the work". Oh, and by the way, ther will be homework.
The first session is usually about an hour and a half. We will discuss which programme will serve you best in a 20 minute phone consultation at no charge to you.
I see clients in my office for private sessions as well as telephone sessions. You can be anywhere in the world as long as you have a telephone. If you have skype the phone call can be free.
What guidelines do you follow when working with children ?
EFT works very well with children, although there are unique ways to deliver EFT properly to these youngsters.
I follow the guidelines set out by my governing association in the UK AAMET. I am happy to forward you a full copy, but basically they are followed to serve and protect the wellbeing of the child.
Perhaps this could be classed as an infrequent question, but I decided to put it into this section as it covers many key points about the true nature of the EFT process.
Will Emotional Freedom Technique Take Away Normal Healthy Grief?
Question:
Does EFT make you feel hollow or emotionless toward a close relative’s death or imminent death (if they have terminal illness)? If you do EFT, do you still feel the sadness?
Answer:
This question that can be answered with a good deal of clinical evidence to back it up. I have often been asked whether EFT will take away from a person a response that is healthy, normal and desirable. People are frequently concerned, for example, that if EFT removes their fear of heights, they may then recklessly walk on the edge of cliffs without appropriate safeguards in place. In other words, they are afraid they will lose intelligent caution because they have tapped away their irrational fear.
However, this is not what happens. EFT never takes away a response that is useful for the system. With respect to impending death and your natural wish and need to feel, as any caring relative would, the impact of the loss and the emotional meaning of the transition, I can say with great certainty from my experience with EFT in situations somewhat similar to this, that EFT will not take away these desirable human responses.
If this is an issue that is troubling you or someone that you know, then contact me and I can suggest to you some ways in which EFT might be used, not only to support your and others close to you during this difficult time, but also to enrich the meaning of your relative’s passing for all concerned--including, quite possibly, for your dying relative.
I have found that if somebody uses EFT to prepare for an impending death of a loved one, or for grieving after that person has died, that its use can often transform the personal pain (and any resentment at the very fact of the loss) into a new feeling about the person who has gone.
Those who have used EFT to handle this sort of situation have found that the surviving person's memories of the departed person now are much more selective--more and more they tend to remember the good times and wonderful things about the person who has passed away. This is, after all, the supreme way to honour anyone. After using EFT, what hasn't been perfect in the relationship is washed away, and what it is memorable, the true gems of the relationship, is retained.
I hope that you will use EFT creatively at this time so that the experience of their illness and death becomes one of growth on a fulfilling level for all concerned. This is quite the opposite of numbing oneself or hardening oneself to a blow.
If you can use EFT in this manner, it will not only benefit you and the rest of the family, but indirectly, in some manner, your new positive attitude may also be conveyed to your relative, even if they barely conscious. This can occur through your tone of voice, gestures, words, and above all by the change in your energy field. In this way, by using EFT to resolve these issues within him, you will be assisting your relative to move on peacefully with a sense of completion--a true gift.
I hope these thoughts help you and you and your family move gracefully through this transition, and that they may also help those readers who may be facing similar crises, or who may be helping others to face them.
Where else can I read about EFT?
The short answer and the key to all other links is at the website of the founder of EFT - Gary Craig. At www.emofree.com you can read literally thousands of case studies about the practice of EFT and every other type of resource about EFT that you could possibly ask.
You can also refer to my adult EFT website
Can you recommend any books?
For those who are already using EFT, I highly recommend reading Patricia Carrington’s book,
"How to Create Positive Choices in Energy Psychology: A New Approach to EFT and Related Methods,"
Rediscover the Joy of Learning by Don A. Blackerby is a wonderful book, and comes highly recommended by one of the founding fathers of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). The book is a practical one for parents and teachers alike. It contains a wealth of specific strategies for academic tasks (reading, spelling) as well as the all important emotional issues that arise when children struggle at school.
Brains that work a little bit differently by Allen D. Bragdon and David Gamon. This book covers ten ways in which people's brains can differ: ADHD, Dyslexia, Left-handedness, Seasonal Affective Disorder, Autism, Alcoholism, Photographic Memory, Perfect Pitch, Synesthesia and Deja Vu. The authors cover the latest brain research on these, and include how to diagnose them and what interventions can be used.
Emotional Freedom: Techniques for dealing with emotional and physical distress by Garry A. Flint and Gary Craig. A simple introduction to EFT, co-written by the father of EFT. It is a good starting point for those who want a clear cut guide to using these techniques.
Five Simple Steps to Emotional Healing : The Last Self-Help Book You Will Ever Need by Gloria Arenson.
Getting Thru to Your Emotions with EFT: Tap into Your Hidden Potential with the Emotional Freedom Techniques by Phillip Mountrose and Jane Mountrose.
While this book does not cover learning related emotional issues, it is a solid book on EFT.
The Gift of Dyslexia by Ronald Davis, who suffered the difficulties, insults and problems that so many dyslexics suffer from at school. This helps make the book's message strongly supportive of what those with "reading difficulties" are going through. This book is aimed at teachers of dyslexic children and is also useful for parents. It highlights the positive sides to dyslexia - the creativity, intuitive powers and perceptual abilities so often associated with dyslexia. Most importantly the Davis method is simple to use and many people have found that it works for them